How to Find Love With The Right Person in 2021

Rachel Sharpe
Rachel Sharpe

Finding love with the right person has never been easier. Now, you no longer have to be at the right place at the right time to meet someone you’re compatible with. With online dating and a bit of science, you can easily find people you’re compatible with. As long as you put yourself out there a bit, you’ll be able to find a lasting love. In this article, we’ll share how to find love with the right person in the digital age using our own personal experiences of finding love ourselves. So, let’s dive into the dating tips you’ll need to meet the person of your dreams. 

How to Find Love: 13 Tips to Finding Love

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1. Try Online Dating

Believe it or not, you can definitely find love online. We’ll be the first to admit that those first couple of dates with the right match might be awkward as you learn to translate online chemistry offline, but with the right person it is possible. One of the amazing things about online dating is that you can select profiles based on sexual orientation, birthday, compatibility tests, and more. If you know what qualities you look for in a lasting relationship, then you’ll be able to sort through profiles based on those characteristics.

One of the amazing things about finding love through an online dating site is that most single people are on one and you’ll find people who might be shyer or more introverted on a dating site. So, it really does open up the type of people who are looking to date. One piece of advice for finding love online is to give it a few dates unless you spot a serious red flag. Some people are more reserved or nervous on first dates. You’d be surprised at how an awkward first date can lead to a happy marriage years later. That’s exactly what happened to me. Give people a chance to let their true selves shine through.

2. Zodiac Compatibility Based on Science

Globe with Zodiac signs

We’ll be the first to admit that zodiac compatibility can sound a bit woo-woo. But funny story, a famous mathematician named Gunter Sachs decided to figure out once and for all if there was any merit to zodiac signs and marriage. And funny enough, his data showed that certain zodiac signs were more likely to get married and more likely to get divorced. Years ago, I decided to test his theory for myself. Since all my previous relationships didn’t last long, I wanted to see if I could find love based on my zodiac sign. His studies showed that Capricorn women were most likely to marry Capricorn men. So I decided to date only Capricorn men for a couple months. After dates with three different Capricorn men, the third one is the person I ended up marrying. We’ve been together for almost eight years. So, maybe there is some truth to his study.

Capricorn men and Capricorn women

Aries men and Aries women

Taurus men and Libra women

Gemini men and Gemini women

Leo men and Aries women

Virgo men and Virgo women

Libra men and Libra women

Scorpio men and Pisces women

Sagittarius men and Sagittarius women

Sagittarius men and Aries women

Aquarius men and Aquarius women

Pisces men and Scorpio women

3. Be At Peace with Your Relationship Status

If you’re desperate to find love, you won’t find it. Often, you’ll hit this point where you’ll realize nothing you’re doing is working. Instead of dating, you’ll take a break from the search. This is your opportunity to improve yourself, build yourself up, and get in the right mindset. Shortly, after coming out of this break and trying again you will find love again. This is because while dating many people can help you determine what you like or don’t like, it’s a superficial way of getting to know people. You only ever scratch the surface. It’s that moment where you’re in a clear head, at peace with yourself, and ready to really focus on getting to know another person instead of obtaining a relationship status that you’ll realize you’ve started building a relationship in the first place. Being single isn’t a negative experience. It can be a really enlightening opportunity to focus on fulfilling your own needs and determining who you want to be. Don’t chase relationship statuses or people because that’s not love. 

4. Explore Different Hobbies

Couple looking at one another on a yoga mat in a studio

To find love you need to know who you are. And believe it or not, most people have no idea who they are because they’re constantly changing. There may be people you’d be really compatible with if you went beyond your typical habits to explore different hobbies. Explore activities beyond what you typically do to cross paths with new people and personality types. By doing this, you’ll have a better understanding of what values you look for in a person. At a certain point in life, people realize they’ve been living in a bubble. So take time to pop the bubble you’re in to explore the world, different activities, cultures, and people. On an important note, sometimes your interests won’t line up with other people, and that’s okay. You don’t need to a clone of yourself to find love and stability in a relationship. It’s okay to have a few differences, that’s what keeps things interesting. 

5. Just Get to Know People with Curiosity

Most people spend their dates trying to convince people to date them. They try to sell you on all the amazing things they’ve done. But the secret to finding love is to get to know someone else. To find a lasting love, you need to be honest about whether the other person showed any interest in getting to know you. Did they ask you any questions based on what you told them? If not, they’re likely not your best match.

Ultimately, you want to find someone you want to learn more about and who wants to learn more about you. Otherwise, it’s just infatuation based on physical appearance. Who is the person at the core? That’s the exciting part. Every single person on the planet has a few amazing experiences and stories that led to who they are, focus on unravelling those stories out of them. You’d be amazed at how interesting everyone can be.

6. Take Care Of Yourself 

Woman brushing her teeth

Have you been taking care of yourself lately? For example, do you take care of your physical health and mind? Are you practicing self care? To love someone else, you need to love yourself first. But if you’ve fallen into a hopeless depression from a recent divorce or breakup, this isn’t the time to find love. The goal of a new relationship isn’t to replace an old one. With a new relationship, you’re creating something new and different. After all, you should be dating someone completely different than your ex considering that relationship didn’t work out in the first place. So make sure you’re regularly taking care of yourself. Go for walks, eat healthy, shower daily, brush your teeth, fix your hair, and invest in your personal growth. When you’re at your best, you’ll attract others who are at their best too. And that’s a dating tip that’ll help you find love with the right person. 

7. Be Optimistic Around People

A negative person will attract negativity, drama, and chaos in relationships. They’ll falsely assume it’s the other person when really it’s how they approach the relationship. There are plenty of amazing books on how to learn to be more optimistic. When you finally master optimism, you’ll notice that your relationships don’t involve walking on eggshells. All the fighting you might’ve done in your previous relationship immediately stops. The more positive you are towards others, the more effort and love they’ll put into the relationship because they feel valued and appreciated. And then, they’ll slowly give you the uplifting optimism back to you because they’re always in a positive mental state. People will react to you based on how you treat them. So keep the mood positive and uplifting and all your previous problems will drift away.

8. Be Kind to Everyone

Laptop computer with the words "be kind"

The best way to attract a good love is by being kind to everyone you meet. You’d be surprised at how much people need kindness in the world. Take a chance on people by always going out of your way to be kind. In the morning each day ask yourself, “how can I make a stranger’s day?” Instead of doing it with the intent of finding your soulmate, do it with the intent to naturally boost your vibe. People who do good deeds daily tend to be happier in general and that’s what will help you find love. You might realize you find love not from a romantic partner but from new friends and strangers. And that might just be the temporary fulfillment you need to feel at peace with being single so that you eventually do meet the right person.

9. Say No to Infatuation

You’ll never find love if you’re attracted to the wrong things about a person. You can’t fall in love with someone on the first date. It’s impossible. On a first date, people are trying their best to appear at their best. Rather than falling for someone’s appearance, ambition, or success, take the time to get to know people at their core. Practice mindful dating here. You’re going to have to shut down infatuation. That means sometimes someone you’re seriously attracted to, gets a no to a five date because you know that the spark will fade. While physical appearance helps enhance chemistry, it shouldn’t be the foundation of a relationship.

10. Put Yourself Out There

Closeup of two people sitting and having a coffee

You’ll never find love with the right person, if the right person can never find you. That means, you’re going to have to crawl out of your shell to be found. While you can hide behind online profiles for a while, eventually you need to take that step and go on a first date. Putting yourself out there means being confident enough to let your true colors show. Let people see you for you. There might be a few people who don’t appreciate your quirky humor. But eventually that trait you’re kind of shy about will be the exact reason why someone loves you. So, let people see the real you, unfiltered. 

11. Opposites Attract, Similarities Last

While opposites attract, it’s actually similarities that last. We tend to be most compatible with people who are similar to us. Rather than being with someone with polar opposite values or traits that are in direct conflict to ours, having more similarities is what creates stability and peace in a relationship. You don’t need to be with a clone version of yourself to be happy. Some differences in interests and hobbies are healthy and allows you both to learn from one another. But if there’s more differences than similarities, you might end up in a relationship with more conflict than you’d like. Focus on the values you appreciate and look for someone who shares the same ones. That way, you can have a healthy and loving relationship. 

12. Confirm Your Needs

Women writing in her journal

Have you ever sat down and made a checklist of what your three needs are in a relationship? Did you make sure that the items on your checklist aren’t superficial? If your checklist has items like good looking, good career, or educated, it’s likely that you won’t find love. You’re set out looking for infatuation. For example, what is the value in someone being educated? What if they dropped out of school but built a multi-million dollar business at 19? Are you going to reject them because they don’t have an education? Or is it maybe ambition that you value more? Or possibly the ability to communicate well? Ultimately, when choosing a life partner, you want to make sure you’re choosing values for a lasting relationship. So, look over your list carefully, and dig deep into the core values you need to have stability in love. 

13. Be With Someone You Can Spend the Day With

One of the most important aspects of how to find love is finding someone you want to spend your day with. Absolutely anyone can find someone to spend a night with but does the person want to hang out with you during the day? Can you picture yourself hanging out at a park or going for a long walk after lunch? Do you laugh for hours after having long in-person conversations with them? Or do they only hang out with you after dark because sex is the only thing on their mind? Sex is an important part of a healthy relationship but it’s not the only part of it. If someone isn’t willing to spend their days with you, it’s time to let them go. 

Does Everybody Find Love Eventually?

If you want to find love, of course you’ll find love. That doesn’t mean that any person you choose will love you. But with time, experience, and a strong understanding of what you’re looking for in a long-term relationship or marriage, you will find love. If you want something bad enough in life, you will always get it if you put in the work. So, get to know more people, say yes to dates, ask people out, and give yourself a chance to find the love you’re looking for. 

Can You Find Love After Divorce?

Of course, you can find love after divorce. Sometimes, relationships end so that new, better relationships can take place. This could be your big opportunity to finally find your perfect match and lifelong happiness. Still, you want to take some time to heal from your divorce if it left you feeling hurt to prevent carrying over damage to the next person. But once, you’re ready to mingle again, take the time to go on dates. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been divorced at 30, 40, 50, 60, or even 70. You can find love at any age after a divorce. 

Is it possible to find love after 30,40, 50 or 60?

Age doesn’t matter in love. You can find love at any age as long as you put yourself out there and get to know single people. Some say that finding love in later life can be a wonderful experience since you’ve grown so much over the years. So, don’t panic if you find yourself newly single in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or 60s, you can find love at any stage in life. At these ages, you have a strong understanding of who you are and what you value, which is exactly what will help you find lasting love once and for all. 

Conclusion

In this article, we covered 13 ways to find love with the right person. It’s important to remember that you can find love online, in-person, or at an event. You never know when you’ll bump into the right person. So, keep your eyes open, wear your heart on your sleeve, be kind at every opportunity, and get to know people on a deeper level. And remember, it doesn’t matter how old you are. You can find love at any age. As long as you’re alive, love is everywhere. And it’s waiting for you to find it.

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